Have you ever told your partner or spouse how you would feel if you found out they had been cheating? Maybe your spouse or partner will never cheat on you! Are would they? Ok, maybe they want cheat. But you must face the fact that your spouse or partner will be tempted with the "grass is greener on the other side" especially after all the responsibilities of parenthood have set in and things are not so carefree anymore. And you will be faced with that same temptation unless both of you have suddenly become really, really an eye sore. Who knows? They may be attracted to the same thing you find attractive about your spouse or partner in the beginning and now! By realizing this now, depending on the type of relationship you are in, not only can you make this one of the healthy topics to discuss but you can possibly get back some of what was lost. You know before all of the many responsibilities set into everyone's life. Cheating causes so much pain and grief and if you have not experienced it firsthand, take a look around - It affects everyone! Saying no requires at times the willpower to walk - no run away, the action to back up what you say and truly caring about your partner or spouse feelings. Do not become obsessed with this topic but talk about things like this before it happens. Talk about how the both of you would feel and what would cause the both of you to entertain the thoughts of cheating. Would it involve something physical like not receiving enough affection or something emotional like not feeling appreciated or loved? You want facts that will help you both understand what your needs are so you'll NOT look elsewhere. We seek love and acceptance in our society and this does not change once we enter relationships. We want it regardless of the changes we grow through with our body and spirit. So when we do not feel we are getting these things from the ones we love, we seek it from others! If you do not want to make the topic about the two of you just yet, talk about cheating in relationships in general before the opportunity presents itself to either of you. |
